When it comes to sex, for many men, sex is an event. A destination to arrive at, a goal to be achieved.
But for the women they love, sex is not a moment that begins in the bedroom.
It’s a game that starts hours, even days, before the main event, a slow, delicious build-up of tension and desire.
When this is misunderstood, it leads to frustration, disconnect, and missed opportunities for true intimacy.
Here are three common mistakes men make before sex, and how to transform them into moments of irresistible seduction.
1.Mistake: Waiting till the last minute to initiate sex:
Waiting until the lights are off and the day is done to make your move is like trying to win a race at the starting line.
You’ve missed the warm-up. Waiting until 10 or 11 PM to start shifting panties. when she’s mentally tired is a gamble and kills the mood.
The solution:
Seduction is a slow burn. It’s the low, steady heat that turns anticipation into craving. Don’t wait for nightfall; begin in the morning.
Let your desire for her be the first thing she feels. Longer kisses, dirty texts throughout the day.
Let the promise of what’s to come simmer in her mind all day, so by the time night falls, she’s already aching for you.
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2. Mistake: Jumping straight into it
When the moment finally arrives, plunging directly toward the finish line ruins the entire mood. Indirectly telling her you’re there for the release, not for the connection.
The Solution: Explore and experiment
Engage in foreplay, worship her body, treat her like the queen she is and let her know. Use your tongue and fingers. Once again, let her feel wanted.
3. Mistake: Being too predictable
Same style, same positions, same rhythms, all just serves to make sex boring and routine-like.
Solution:
Explore by experimenting with different locations like the kitchen instead of the bed. Blindfold her and explore her with just your fingertips and your tongue. Slow down when she expects you to speed up. Hold her gaze and tell her exactly how beautiful she looks. Be a lover who explores, not one who assumes.
In Conclusion
Remember, great sex is crafted long before the clothes come off. It’s woven into the fabric of your day through stolen glances, electric touches, and the powerful promise of pleasure to come.
ID/EB
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