Christie and her husband were not exactly radiating romance on one of the most significant days of their relationship. They were not speaking to each other at all.
The Nigerian woman shared the story on Facebook on Thursday, April 16, and it has since resonated with a wide audience, partly because of how honest it is and partly because of how it ended.
According to Christie, she and her then-boyfriend had a disagreement shortly before his family arrived to pay her bride price. By the time the ceremony began, both of them were still stewing in silence. They sat through the entire process, surrounded by family on both sides, without exchanging a word with each other. He paid. She agreed to leave with him. They walked out together and were still not talking.
She says that throughout the ceremony, she was quietly wrestling with herself, asking whether she was making the right decision, wondering why he was going ahead with it while they were both clearly upset, and questioning whether the whole thing was even God’s will.
In her own words: “When my husband came with his family to pay my bride price, we weren’t even talking. We had a little misunderstanding, and throughout the whole process, we just stayed quiet. Deep down, I kept asking myself questions: Is this truly the will of God? Why is he still going ahead with this while we’re both upset? He went ahead and paid, I agreed to go with him, yet we were still angry with each other. But look at us today. This can only be God.”
She says their marriage today is stronger than it has ever been, and she shared the story as an encouragement to people who are believing God for a life partner, assuring them that the journey does not always start perfectly, and that is not necessarily a sign that something is wrong.
