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> “I don’t know why I react the way I do.”
> “Why I shut down when I’m criticized.”
> “Why I feel guilty when I rest.”
> “Why I panic when someone pulls away.”
> “Why I keep ending up in the same kind of pain.”
These aren’t random behaviours.
They are echoes—whispers from our earliest years.
Why Our Childhood Still Matters
Our childhood isn’t just a chapter in our story—it’s the blueprint.
Not written in ink, but in emotions.
In the tone of a parent’s voice.
In the looks we received.
In what was said—and what wasn’t.
Childhood shapes:
– How we see ourselves
– What we believe we deserve
– How we cope with failure
– How we give and receive love
– What safety feels like to us
You don’t need to have had a “bad” childhood to carry wounds.
Even in loving homes, things can be missed.
Even in safe spaces, silence can echo.
The Hidden Lessons We Learned
We all grew up in a classroom we didn’t know we were in.
And we were all taught lessons we didn’t know we were learning:
– “Love must be earned.”
– “My needs are too much.”
– “If I’m not perfect, I’ll be rejected.”
– “I have to shrink myself to stay safe.”
– “I’m only worthy when I’m useful.”
These beliefs didn’t appear out of nowhere.
They were shaped by patterns—repeated, reinforced, and absorbed.
These Are Patterns, Not Personal Failings
Our reactions aren’t flaws.
They are adaptations.
They helped us survive.
But now, they might be holding us back from truly living.
When we explore our childhood, we begin to:
– Identify the roots of our triggers
– Understand our emotional wiring
– Reclaim our voice and set boundaries
– Break cycles passed down through generations
– Learn to parent ourselves with compassion
You are not bound to the story you were handed.
You have the power to write a new one.
🛠️ Where to Begin
Start gently. Healing isn’t a race—it’s a return.
– Reflect on your earliest memories: What emotions surface?
– Ask yourself: What was I praised for? What was I punished for?
– Listen to your inner voice: Whose voice does it sound like?
– Notice your stress responses: Are they echoes from the past?
– Seek support: Healing often begins in safe, trusted spaces—with a therapist, mentor, or community.
This isn’t about blame.
It’s about understanding how your past shaped you—
So you can shape your future with intention.
Healing Begins with Curiosity
When you explore your past, you give yourself permission to:
– Stop reacting from old wounds
– Stop mistaking survival strategies for your identity
– Start honouring the child you once were
– Start building a life that feels safe—not just familiar
If your current life doesn’t feel like your own,
Go back—not to stay there,
But to remember who you were before the world told you who to be. Unlearn bad habits/attitudes, learn new positive ones and keep growing!
💡 A Gentle Invitation
In 2026, let’s stop minimizing our stories.
Let’s start listening to them.
Let’s explore our childhood with tenderness, not shame.
Let’s stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?”
And begin asking, “What happened to me—and how can I heal?”
Because when you understand where you’ve been,
You can finally choose where you’re going.
Prof. Evans Agbeno
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