ABC radio star Dee Salmin has delved into one thing she believes women do to men on dates and in the bedroom that she says is unfair.
In conversation with her boyfriend, Collingwood captain Darcy Moore, the pair discussed stereotypes surrounding femininity and masculinity. They also questioned the expectations that have developed between both genders.
Salmin, who also presents Triple J‘s The Hook Up podcast, is understood to have begun dating Moore back in August 2023.
They were first spotted holding hands at a musical premiere in Melbourne before confirming their romance after stepping out for the Brownlow Medal ceremony later that year.
Speaking on her dating life before she and Moore went official, Salmin stated that she made an effort to ‘unlearn’ the pressures and expectations that she had placed on men in the past, to be the leader or instigator when it came to dating.
‘It’s taken me a while to unlearn I think the pressure that I have put on guys in the past in the expectation of dating of being the leader, being the instigator of the dates and like trying to put all the effort in,’ Salmin said to Moore, as they discussed expectations between each gender on the Teach Us Consent podcast.
Dee Salmin and Darcy Moore (left and right) have opened up a discussion around expectations between different genders
Salmin explained that she had tried to ‘unlearn’ several expectations she had of men when she was single, adding putting ‘pressure’ on men to instigate dates was unfair
‘Even in sex, the pressure of like having to perform and to be like smooth and that kind of thing.
‘I think that’s something that I’ve really had to challenge my preconceived ideas of men in that space.
‘I think doing my job on The Hook Up, we have so many guys who talk about that pressure and don’t feel like they have the same space that women can sometimes have to just focus on pleasure.
‘It’s like they really feel that pressure to perform.’
Salmin went on to open up about some previous experiences she has had with other women, adding that many women she knows have discussed the topic before.
‘I know a lot of girls in my life have spoken about that before.’
‘I think this pressure to make a move is very gendered for men and it shouldn’t be there. That shouldn’t be the expectation,’ Salmin added.
Moore, a key defender and one of the biggest names in the AFL, also delved into what pressures, as a man, he wished he didn’t have to deal with.
Moore and Salmin are understood to have begun dating back in 2023, going public with their relationship at that year’s Brownlow Medal awards ceremony
The 29-year-old key defender also delved into how some people had been shocked by his love for music and the arts, adding that ‘reinfoced to me that we put blokes into a bit of a box on what they can be interested in’
The 29-year-old key defender opened up on how he felt his personality differed from what many stereotypically, might perceive an AFL player to be.
Moore said: ‘I suppose one thing for me probably is like because I’m in the position I’m in, like I’m the captain of an AFL team, and I’m interested in other things…
‘I love to read, I love to study. I’m a bit of a nerd.’
Salmin interjected: ‘He loves musical theatre.’
‘I love music and film, theatre and the arts – all that sort of stuff,’ the Collingwood captain told the podcast.
‘I am constantly being told by people that I’m so different, unusual, I’m so wacky and alternative – and I don’t actually feel that way. Like, I feel pretty normal.
‘Lots of the men in my life that I’m very close with are similar to me. I think in the football world, in sports, it is seen as a bit novel.
‘That probably reinforces to me that we put blokes into a bit of a box on what they can be interested in or what they can do.’
Moore is currently studying a Master’s in International Relations at Melbourne University
Moore then explained that he wished he ‘didn’t have to answer questions on being different’.
Salmin then added she even found it bizarre that when the pair began dating, people would be so shocked to learn that Moore ‘liked reading’.
Moore, 29, revealed this week to The Australian that listening to music is how he stays focused during the ‘cauldron’ of game day.
He is, meanwhile, juggling leading the Pies out every weekend with his studies for a Master’s in International Relations at Melbourne University.
