File photo of a man in distress
Dear GhanaWeb,
I am a 37-year-old man who has been in a 5-year marriage with my university sweetheart, and we have two kids together.
Over the course of our dating and early marriage, our sex life has been fairly normal; we barely experimented or engaged in anything different.
However, things took a turn three years ago after we moved into a larger house and had hired help, including a cook, a maid, and a driver.
She started denying me sex with excuses about her being tired and not in the mood.
For the past three years, I have had sex not more than five times. But despite all that, I have resisted the urge to cheat.
But just last week, I stumbled upon something that has turned my world upside down.
I had come home early from work on that fateful Monday, and she had not heard my car entering the house when I came into the room. I overheard her on the phone with her best friend; she was talking about how she was enjoying anal sex with our own driver!
She added that because of what she was doing with our driver, she doesn’t feel the need to have any normal sex with me or anyone else.
Her comments have left me flabbergasted. I can’t even look at her the same way again.
I can’t divorce her because of the kids, but I can’t bring myself to get close to her again.
I don’t know what to do. I need advice.
ID/EB
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