Gospel singer Selina Boateng has lifted the veil on the quiet suffering endured by many Christian couples, especially those in ministry, who stay in difficult marriages to preserve appearances.
Appearing on Onua FM’s Efie Ne Fie with Ohemaa Acheampomaa, Boateng shared candid insights into the often-unspoken emotional toll that marriage can take, particularly within faith communities where divorce is heavily stigmatized.
She didn’t hold back when reflecting on the scale of the issue, noting how societal and religious expectations trap many in unhappy unions.
“If people had the liberty to openly walk away from their marriages, divorce cases would shoot up like gunfire. It would be an eyesore because the numbers would be overwhelming,” she remarked.
Boateng emphasized that behind the smiles and spiritual service, many women, especially those called to ministry, are silently battling emotional pain. According to her, the pressure to stay quiet is overwhelming.
“And the sad part? Once you’re married, you can’t even speak about what you’re going through. Even the people who pressured you into it won’t be there to console you.”
The singer extended a heartfelt plea to the Christian community: recognize that failing marriages don’t just threaten domestic peace, they can also derail entire ministries and destroy a person’s mental and emotional well-being.
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“I want to use this opportunity to plead with everyone: if you’re a Christian and your marriage falls apart, it affects everything. Your ministry, your peace, your purpose. Especially if you’re a gospel musician. That’s why we need to wake up. We are at fault. And I’m not just speaking for myself, I know many mothers who are suffering in silence. Even when they speak out, they are not believed. They’re blamed instead.”
In her view, the silence only worsens the problem. The fear of being judged or shamed keeps many from telling their truth or seeking help, even when their lives and callings are at risk.
“So much is happening behind closed doors. If we allowed people to speak freely, you’d be shocked at how many men of God and gospel musicians would admit they married the wrong person,” Selina Boateng averred.
