A Nigerian lady on Facebook has shared a truly controversial opinion about the cause of domestic violence in most marriages and relationships.
The lady, Unwana Peters who is currently single expressed her view how the sensitive topic. She claims that if a woman was truly respectful and submissive, no man would lay his hands on his wife.
In her own words;
“WHAT IF I AM THE CAUSE OF THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. I know I’m not married, but I’m at least 50% sure that no man lays hands on a truly respectful and submissive wife unless, of course, he’s drunk (or just a terrible human being),” she wrote.
Now, before you come for me, calm down! Don’t eat me arrive just yet.
Look, I get it about 60% of men struggle with controlling their anger. But let’s be honest, after three months of living with someone, you should already know whether to stay or evacuate like it’s an emergency drill.
Now, ladies, let’s talk. We will bend over backwards to respect our bosses at work because, well… salary must drop. But when it comes to our partners at home?
Suddenly, we have no customer service voice. Come closer, let me whisper a secret ,there’s a way to handle a man that makes him check himself without you even raising your voice or calling him names.
Your man is clearly upset, his anger is building, and you? You’re still talking, raising points like you’re in a debate competition. Aunty… disappear! Activate silent mode like a phone on low battery.
Let’s be real ,every man has a MUMU BUTTON. Your job? Find it and press it like an elevator button to the penthouse. Men have emotions too, and many struggle to manage them. What’s worse? Some partners don’t help; instead, they fuel the fire. Imagine telling your husband, “How dare you speak to me like that? Don’t make me lose it oo!” “If you are a man, touch me “Now, pause… Is that wisdom?
Listen, no one is perfect. Sometimes, you’ll disrespect him unintentionally. But if you know how to press reset the right way, your home won’t turn into a war zone.
In all things, my dear ladies, study that man like an exam syllabus before you commit. If his flaws are above your control level, love alone won’t save you. Don’t let romance be the blindfold that leads you into premium tears.”
The clearly uninformed and misguided take has stirred up discussions online, with many questioning her reasoning.
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